The Ideal Lover

"The Ideal Lover is rare in the modern world, for the role takes effort. You will have to focus intensely on the other person, fathom what she is missing, what he is disappointed by. People will often reveal this in subtle ways: through gesture, tone of voice, a look in the eye. By seeming to be what they lack, you will fit your ideal."

This seductive character is very similar to The Rake but with the difference is that it can apply to both sexes, and also is not so physically driven like The Rake, is more for the sake of passion and may I dare to say ego boost? Uuuuuhh!

A major requirement: Patience and attention to detail <- not for you? pass it!…there are plenty of other seductive characters to chose from. 

 

(A portrait of Giacomo Giovanni  Casanova)

The Romantic Ideal: in this corner we have….Casanova!

Oh yes the man that manage to live up to his reputation for centuries and centuries and somehow he is still is part of our lives, whether we know his full story or not we still have a sense of who he is. If you hear "he is such a Casanova" you'll immediately think of a player with great looks and captivating ways to attract women, am I right or am I right? How was he so unbelievable good at what he did? Well Mr. Casanova had a simple method: on meeting a woman he would

*Study her

*Go along with her mood

*Find out what was missing in her life and provide it!

And voila! The Italian Casanova made himself the ideal lover romancing the streets of Venice and even going as far as Paris for his conquest, but if you can't dance the mambo Italiano you might feel more at ease with

The Beauty Ideal: And baby it's a girl! Jeanne Poisson who later became Madame de Pompadour was the official mistress of Louis XV. Back in the day being the "official mistress" of the king of France was a privilege that wasn't given out to any random women on the streets of Paris, actually the funny thing was that to become the second women you'd have to be a noble blood, now isn't that kind of ironic? In any case a woman like Jeanne Poisson shouldn't even expect it for she was of middle class, but she mangae to conquer the kings heart, from the moment he met her to the day she died.

How did Madame de Pompadour manage to be so awesome? Well  she strategize from A to Z  & every letter in between. She would                  (Sophia Myels as Madame De Pompadour) 

 

*Set up the beginning stages: when the King was on his way to her chambers she make sure the hallways would always be warm and with a fresh captivating scent, she'll then continue with a

*Surprise: Madame de Pompadour loved beautiful object, her room was decorated with fine porcelain, Chinese fans and golden flower pots, also every time the king would come she would have a different- always elaborate- outfit, so every time the king would be eager to see what she'd be wearing next.

*She had something else for the aftermath: of course after the honeymoon period it's important to have something else to show. She would simply add fun conversations which the king always enjoy for she was smart, educated and knowledgeable, and when the conversation was about to go dull?

*Stroke his ego in a unique way: Since the King Louis V was living in the shadows of his successor Louis XIV, he rarely even bother to make an effort to be the best. He though he couldn't really become anything bigger so he spent his time hunting, sports and sex. Madame de Pompadour would give him a challenge like the building of a new castle which he had to take charge of everything from architecture to layout of the gardens, she would then add the theatre in Versailles where she will act every week for the king and increase his love for the arts.

Madame de Pompadour seems like she read a lot of cosmo articles and actually pay attention but not exactly. There's an inner person in everyone that's eager to come out. Everybody has an unrealized ideal wishing to be artists, thinkers, leaders, etc but reality happens and the turns of the world crush those ideals and they just settle. As a Beauty Ideal you have to bring this inner persona out of them in your own subtle way.


"Appeal to their better selves, to a higher standard of beauty, and they will hardly notice that they have been seduced. Make them feel elevated, lofty, spiritual, and your power over them will be limitless"

The keys of an ideal lovers is to observe you have to ignore your targets conscious behavior and not only focus on their words but focus more on the unconscious things: the tone of voice, what makes him/her blush, their looks. You have to be very attentive and know what each one of those gestures mean.

You also have to be very careful of staying in character never let a flaw be seen, always be the character you portray. When reality creeps in…is over.

Am I the Ideal lover? This seductive character doesn't seem so out of place, in fact so far is the most fitting. Though I find it rather challenging to read unconscious gestures and actually know what they mean I think that with time I can make it work, and make it work good!

So In Conclusion the Ideal lover maybe my seductive character. Let's see what else is out there.

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